2 ESSENTIAL WAYS TO SPOT LYING

Lying: everyone does it. Everyone may have their own reasons for doing so, whether it is to look smart, avoid trouble, or just be plain mean. A recent study done by the wonderful University of Massachusetts found that at least 60% of people tell at least one lie during a 10 minute conversation, with the average being 2 to 3 lies!

Who knew lying could be such huge parts in our normal, day-to-day lives? Fortunately, however, there are several ways to detect deception, or ‘smell bs’ as some may call it, that you may find on the net;some with unbelievable accuracy. In this article, I’ll cover two of my favorite, tried and tested ways to expose someone’s lies!

‘ALLUDE, NOT ACCUSE’

This first technique is fairly simple, yet surprisingly effective.

The ‘Allude, not accuse’ method of spotting a lie operates just like how its name suggests: you simply allude to the possibility of them doing something you suspect, rather than directly accuse them of it.

The way you do this is by making a statement/asking a question in a general way, that sounds accusing to the guilty, but normal and innocent to the innocent. Sound confusing?

Let me give you some quick examples

Say a mother suspects her son of playing video games at home instead of doing his homework like he said he was. If using this technique, the mother would ask:

Isn’t it funny how someone’s mum could know when their child is playing video games when they shouldn’t be?‘.

If the son was playing video games, you can expect him to either immediately become defensive, or know what you’re getting at and sit in silence.

But, if the son was acting honestly and indeed doing his homework, you should expect a dumbfound reaction like “What are you talking about?”, and not realize you’re implying anything.

See the difference in reacting, between the innocent and guilty?

I’ll give you one more example. Let’s imagine a teacher suspects a student of plagiarizing an essay from the net, instead of writing it themselves. The teacher would then bring up their statement/question in a general way to the student, like say to them when they’re walking in class the next day:

“Isn’t it amazing how a student can plagiarize an essay that their teacher just read a few days ago?”

THE THREE ‘FACTS’

This next method of exposing bs can be extremely effective once perfected.

First,let’s take a closer look at the name of this method; the three ‘facts’. Notice how I use single quotation marks with ‘facts’? That’s because the key to using this technique doesn’t actually depend on any facts at all, but a single, powerful lie.

Let me explain.

For this great method of spotting lies, what you need to do is ask your suspect two questions to confirm the facts, but then hit them with your own, made-up, fake ‘fact’ and watch for their reaction.

Sounds confusing, right? It’s not. Let me once again give you some examples.

Imagine, if you will, a girlfriend who suspects her boyfriend of going into town cheating on her, rather than going to the cinema like he said he would. Now, instead of simply asking him a useless question like ‘So how was the movie?’ (and recieving virtually no new information) once he comes back, the woman, if using this solid technique, will say the following.

First, she will ask him two questions to confirm the facts, the reality. In this scenario involving a cinema, these questions could be something like:

So what movie did you watch?‘, or ‘Who did you watch it with?’, or ‘What time did you get out at?

See? Two, simple questions like that to make sure he’s up to speed with the situation. Now, and this is the important part, right after he gives his answer to your second question, you’re going to instantly introduce your own, made-up ‘fact’ and watch carefully for his response. In this particular scenario, this question could be something like:

Oh, I heard traffic was backed up for an hour or something because of a car accident at that time?’

And now, you just sit back, relax, and see how he replies. Because remember! If he wasn’t at the cinema like he said he was, then he doesn’t actually know whether not to acknowledge the fact that there was a car accident! Because there might’ve been one, but then there might’ve not been one; how the hell could he know if he wasn’t there?

But regardless of his answer, he will do the one thing that every single liar will do when confronted with a situation like this, and that is hesitate. Deciding how to answer.

Don’t forget! If he was honest and was indeed at the cinema earlier, then he would’ve instantly said ‘What? There was no car accident, what the hell are you talking about?’. But the liar doesn’t know because he wasn’t there and so is going to have to hesitate in his answer, not knowing that you actually created the whole scenario, but in doing so completely give himself away.

Some other things to be aware of when using this technique is to always ask objective questions, not subjective, and to only ask serious questions that will give you a serious answer. A sarcastic answer won’t do anything for you.

Additonally, always be on the lookout for the other red signs. Obviously, the killer giveaway will always be hesitation (and the wrong answer if he agrees with what you’re saying), but also be on the lookout for a subject change. Typically, when an uncomfortable topic is brought up, people will try to change the subject as quicky as possible; raising easily noticeable red flags while doing so.

And there you have it! Now you’re armed and ready with the knowledge to expose practially any lie you suspect!

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